The Love Theory: Volume II (Reader Discretion Advised)
And ladies like sex just as much as we do, guys, but they act like they don't. But they do. There's not a woman in this room that wouldn't rather be somewhere else with a nice stiff one in them! - Eddie Murphy
Once every so often, I get thirsty, thirsty for new music. For some reason, when we get into the winter months, I tend to listen to mostly R&B, opposed to mostly hip-hop during the warmer months. When thirsty for more music, I peruse Amazon.com for new releases to see if anything new and good is out before adding it to my music library on Rhapsody. There wasn't a whole lot out there in R&B, but I managed to find about eight songs worthy of downloading. I was in the mood for that sort of R&B-Neo-Soul-Pop sound. I can say Kiss Goodbye by Avant is basically the soundtrack of my life this very instant. Another song I like to play is Sex Music by Tank (both Avant and Tank have albums coming out very soon).
Listening to Sex Music sort of puts a fun, sexual mood into the atmosphere. While mentally groovin' to it while driving, my famous (or infamous depending how you look at it) stream of consciousness took over. I thought about sex and women. At this point, the wisdom and experience I have accumulated merely at the tender age of 26 has taught me that women love sex every bit as much as we males. I mean just watch a woman having an orgasm and ask yourself if that's something they don't care to have often. Sheeeeeeeeit.
We all are familiar with the old-guard social beliefs about women and sex. Traditionally, it's wasn't socially acceptable for women to be hoes (a little note about hoes: I am one of the few people that uses the word hoe as a unisex term. I remember my freshman year in college when I jokingly told a girl that "you can get one of your hoes to do it for you." She stopped laughing and told me she was very offended. I thought, "what the hell?" But I figured out that she made that leap and assumed I meant for hoes to mean women, but that was not the case. Men are hoes too, when the shoe fits of course. In fact, the overwhelming majority of guys I know are hoes, and I tell them that all the time.). For some reason, society set up the notion that women are not allowed to enjoy all the fruits of sexual exploration. Sex for pleasure is only for all men and just married/committed women.
This notion still lingers today, but plenty of women say to hell with that, and get down just like guys do [thankfully...well for them of course...]. But why, though? Why is it such a big deal for women to have sex? Why is that many women force guys to "put out work" just to have sex with them?
The Nature Aspect
Hippos: Female hippos sit back as potential male mates fling their dung on them with their tails. Somehow, their dung gives a scent to the female in which the female can have a sense of their fertility.
Bighorn Sheep: Two rams actually fight each other. Two opposing rams line up opposite each other. Then, they charge full steam ahead towards each other, smashing their horns together in a thunderous crackle that can be heard for miles. The nearby female watches, and waits for her winner.
Peafowl: The male (peacock...there's a natural pun there...) is equipped with a plethora of outrageous, colorful feathers. The peahens' (female) set of feathers is not as spectacular as the peacocks'. Females choose those males with the largest, most colorful set of feathers.
For this aspect to work, one must acknowledge that humans are animals. We are animals with a highly evolved, complex brain, a brain that is ridiculously extraordinary when compared to the rest of the animal kingdom. In mating rituals for so many of the species on earth, it is the male that has to lead the courtship process. Since humans are animals too, human females have a propensity to sit back and let the males carry on the courtship process. This does not mean that women don't or cannot carry the courtship process, but it is mostly carried by males. Nonetheless, females are the ones that are to be impressed. Instead of flinging dung, males fling their words. While men don't have horns to crash into each other with, there have been plenty of physical battles over women (see the mythical Trojan War). While guys don't have wings, they can show their physical or financial prowess to impress the female.
The Chris Rock Aspect
Ever since you were [13], every guy you met has been trying to fuck you...Women are offered dick everyday. Every woman in here gets offered dick at least three times a week. Three times a day, shit! That's right!. Every time a man's being nice to you, all he's doing is offering dick. That's all it is. "Can I get that for you? How 'bout some dick?" "Could I help you with that? Could I help you to some dick?" - Chris Rock
Think about when you were a child. Let's say you had a lust for chocolate chip cookies. You could eat them all day everyday. However, your parents legislated how many cookies you could eat and when you could eat them. That only made your cravings for chocolate chip cookies that much stronger.
Now that you are an adult, you could buy and have chocolate cookies anytime you want. However, you probably don't have them as often as you wished when you were a child because you can have them anytime you want. It's not really a big deal.
Now think about women. It has been established that they are the ones that are able to sit back and wait for males to make their moves. With this, women are able to get some whenever they want to. Thus, getting sex is not going to be as big deal for them typically when compared to guys. For guys (I'm hoping that this is not the case for guys in relationships or married), some work has to been done in order for them to get some. Thus, it will be a bigger deal for them. Guys are like children when they crave for those cookies. It's harder to obtain, thus the craving will be stronger. And having those cookies finally, they will taste all the better, further enhancing the craving. Women are like the adults, cookies are great when they have them, but its not as big a deal because they know they can buy them anytime they want. Women get offered d*** so much that it's nothing for them to stress about a whole lot.
The Burden Aspect
There seems to be this extra burden on women. Perhaps it comes from the legacy of social standards for women. In a situation once, the woman went on and on about how she wanted it so bad. However, she was very worried about being a statistic. "When controlling for pregnancy," I started, "wouldn't I be in the same situation as you?" "No," she responded. "It's different for you. You're a guy..." *That's actually a great story, but I won't tell here of course...* It's as if the woman loses points in this sort of situation while the guy either breaks even or gains points. I don't think it should be that way, but it is.
Also, there are more risks for women when considering the possibility of pregnancy. While it does take two to tango, women have, perhaps unfairly, more of a burden because they are the ones that have to endure the pregnancy process if they were to get pregnant. The putting on the weight. The hormonal influences. The immobility. The pain. The numerous visits to the doctor. The sacrifice of work and career. The sacrifice of some physical activities. No drinking. No certain foods. Not a lot of coffee. Crazy food cravings. Sacrifice of social life. Meanwhile, the guy could literally just bail and live life normally. Even if the man is around, he and his lack of direct repercussions serves as a reminder for the woman to hate all men (LOL).
...
I'm not a moralist or one who thinks sexual experiences with other people is some kind of intertwining of two bodily temples or some crap. It is what it is. If we are hungry, we go eat. If we are thirsty, we go drink. If we are sore, we take a hot bath or get a massage. If our backs itch, we scratch it. If we don't feel clean, we go take a shower. When we feel sexually aroused, why should it be wrong to get sexual pleasure? Why should it be especially wrong for [single] women? A single woman should have the freedom to get theirs as they please just as guys do. If I ever had a daughter, I actually would not be like many fathers and treat sex as a vile thing that they should stay away from. I'd educate her and try to instill a boxer's mentality because force feeding her abstinence is only going to make it worse for her long term. Therefore, women should do as they please sexually with no stigma or repercussions, but just remember to protect themselves at all times. But as gatekeepers, they hold a great deal of power, at least those who realize it...
Once every so often, I get thirsty, thirsty for new music. For some reason, when we get into the winter months, I tend to listen to mostly R&B, opposed to mostly hip-hop during the warmer months. When thirsty for more music, I peruse Amazon.com for new releases to see if anything new and good is out before adding it to my music library on Rhapsody. There wasn't a whole lot out there in R&B, but I managed to find about eight songs worthy of downloading. I was in the mood for that sort of R&B-Neo-Soul-Pop sound. I can say Kiss Goodbye by Avant is basically the soundtrack of my life this very instant. Another song I like to play is Sex Music by Tank (both Avant and Tank have albums coming out very soon).Listening to Sex Music sort of puts a fun, sexual mood into the atmosphere. While mentally groovin' to it while driving, my famous (or infamous depending how you look at it) stream of consciousness took over. I thought about sex and women. At this point, the wisdom and experience I have accumulated merely at the tender age of 26 has taught me that women love sex every bit as much as we males. I mean just watch a woman having an orgasm and ask yourself if that's something they don't care to have often. Sheeeeeeeeit.
We all are familiar with the old-guard social beliefs about women and sex. Traditionally, it's wasn't socially acceptable for women to be hoes (a little note about hoes: I am one of the few people that uses the word hoe as a unisex term. I remember my freshman year in college when I jokingly told a girl that "you can get one of your hoes to do it for you." She stopped laughing and told me she was very offended. I thought, "what the hell?" But I figured out that she made that leap and assumed I meant for hoes to mean women, but that was not the case. Men are hoes too, when the shoe fits of course. In fact, the overwhelming majority of guys I know are hoes, and I tell them that all the time.). For some reason, society set up the notion that women are not allowed to enjoy all the fruits of sexual exploration. Sex for pleasure is only for all men and just married/committed women.
This notion still lingers today, but plenty of women say to hell with that, and get down just like guys do [thankfully...well for them of course...]. But why, though? Why is it such a big deal for women to have sex? Why is that many women force guys to "put out work" just to have sex with them?
The Nature Aspect
Hippos: Female hippos sit back as potential male mates fling their dung on them with their tails. Somehow, their dung gives a scent to the female in which the female can have a sense of their fertility.
Bighorn Sheep: Two rams actually fight each other. Two opposing rams line up opposite each other. Then, they charge full steam ahead towards each other, smashing their horns together in a thunderous crackle that can be heard for miles. The nearby female watches, and waits for her winner.
Peafowl: The male (peacock...there's a natural pun there...) is equipped with a plethora of outrageous, colorful feathers. The peahens' (female) set of feathers is not as spectacular as the peacocks'. Females choose those males with the largest, most colorful set of feathers.
For this aspect to work, one must acknowledge that humans are animals. We are animals with a highly evolved, complex brain, a brain that is ridiculously extraordinary when compared to the rest of the animal kingdom. In mating rituals for so many of the species on earth, it is the male that has to lead the courtship process. Since humans are animals too, human females have a propensity to sit back and let the males carry on the courtship process. This does not mean that women don't or cannot carry the courtship process, but it is mostly carried by males. Nonetheless, females are the ones that are to be impressed. Instead of flinging dung, males fling their words. While men don't have horns to crash into each other with, there have been plenty of physical battles over women (see the mythical Trojan War). While guys don't have wings, they can show their physical or financial prowess to impress the female.
The Chris Rock Aspect
Ever since you were [13], every guy you met has been trying to fuck you...Women are offered dick everyday. Every woman in here gets offered dick at least three times a week. Three times a day, shit! That's right!. Every time a man's being nice to you, all he's doing is offering dick. That's all it is. "Can I get that for you? How 'bout some dick?" "Could I help you with that? Could I help you to some dick?" - Chris Rock
Think about when you were a child. Let's say you had a lust for chocolate chip cookies. You could eat them all day everyday. However, your parents legislated how many cookies you could eat and when you could eat them. That only made your cravings for chocolate chip cookies that much stronger.
Now that you are an adult, you could buy and have chocolate cookies anytime you want. However, you probably don't have them as often as you wished when you were a child because you can have them anytime you want. It's not really a big deal.
Now think about women. It has been established that they are the ones that are able to sit back and wait for males to make their moves. With this, women are able to get some whenever they want to. Thus, getting sex is not going to be as big deal for them typically when compared to guys. For guys (I'm hoping that this is not the case for guys in relationships or married), some work has to been done in order for them to get some. Thus, it will be a bigger deal for them. Guys are like children when they crave for those cookies. It's harder to obtain, thus the craving will be stronger. And having those cookies finally, they will taste all the better, further enhancing the craving. Women are like the adults, cookies are great when they have them, but its not as big a deal because they know they can buy them anytime they want. Women get offered d*** so much that it's nothing for them to stress about a whole lot.
The Burden Aspect
There seems to be this extra burden on women. Perhaps it comes from the legacy of social standards for women. In a situation once, the woman went on and on about how she wanted it so bad. However, she was very worried about being a statistic. "When controlling for pregnancy," I started, "wouldn't I be in the same situation as you?" "No," she responded. "It's different for you. You're a guy..." *That's actually a great story, but I won't tell here of course...* It's as if the woman loses points in this sort of situation while the guy either breaks even or gains points. I don't think it should be that way, but it is.
Also, there are more risks for women when considering the possibility of pregnancy. While it does take two to tango, women have, perhaps unfairly, more of a burden because they are the ones that have to endure the pregnancy process if they were to get pregnant. The putting on the weight. The hormonal influences. The immobility. The pain. The numerous visits to the doctor. The sacrifice of work and career. The sacrifice of some physical activities. No drinking. No certain foods. Not a lot of coffee. Crazy food cravings. Sacrifice of social life. Meanwhile, the guy could literally just bail and live life normally. Even if the man is around, he and his lack of direct repercussions serves as a reminder for the woman to hate all men (LOL).
...
I'm not a moralist or one who thinks sexual experiences with other people is some kind of intertwining of two bodily temples or some crap. It is what it is. If we are hungry, we go eat. If we are thirsty, we go drink. If we are sore, we take a hot bath or get a massage. If our backs itch, we scratch it. If we don't feel clean, we go take a shower. When we feel sexually aroused, why should it be wrong to get sexual pleasure? Why should it be especially wrong for [single] women? A single woman should have the freedom to get theirs as they please just as guys do. If I ever had a daughter, I actually would not be like many fathers and treat sex as a vile thing that they should stay away from. I'd educate her and try to instill a boxer's mentality because force feeding her abstinence is only going to make it worse for her long term. Therefore, women should do as they please sexually with no stigma or repercussions, but just remember to protect themselves at all times. But as gatekeepers, they hold a great deal of power, at least those who realize it...
Comments
Post a Comment