On Interracial Mate Selection: Part V (Conclusion)
The Facebook Migration Series, Volume VII
Originally written December 6, 2009
This written saga is the first time I have actually collected all of my thoughts about interracial mate selection and put them in one place. While doing this, I have actually learned even more about this topic and myself. I discussed the very issue of the race concept, history of interracial mate selection, arguments made by some against interracial mate selection, and interracial mate selection with respect to black women and black men. In this last part of "On Interracial Mate Selection" (well, I could not think of a better title than this, unfortunately), I will discuss what good could come from interracial mate selection.
I think I have made it clear before, but will reiterate just in case. I am not advocating people consciously pursing a mate of the same race or different race. The point I am trying to make is that people should allow themselves to be open to anything. At the same time, I do know that we are more likely to end up with people that are part of the group that we are mostly exposed to. For instance, I know of several black women that did not necessarily grow up like me. I grew up with primarily blacks and Hispanics. I was still exposed to all kinds of people, but it was probably 75% black/Hispanic and 25% non-black/Hispanic. In contrast, these black women grew up with a crowd that was more skewed towards non-black/Hispanic, which doesn't mean anything other than they were simply around them when they grew up. With these women, I jokingly would asked them who their top celebrity crushes are. To my somewhat astonishment, there was no mention of Tyson Beckford, Usher, Taye Diggs, Shamar Moore, Morris Chestnut, (Adam Carter, LOL!) or any other typical black male celebrity hearthrob. Those black women named almost exclusively white guys while many of my black female friends go with those guys mentioned above. Then there are black males. We "sample the whole menu" in almost all instances. For instance, when it comes to celebrity crushes, I like a wide range of them including Claudette Ortiz (Puerto Rican and black), Keri Hilson (black), Alicia Keys (black, Irish, and Italian), Christina Milian (Cuban), or that women from "Sex in the City" (white) that is not Sarah Jessica Parker, Kim Cattrell, or the lesbian, red-headed women (I know that seems weird, but she is hot to me, lol). Forgetting I am on the internet, I just found that her name is actually Kristin Davis, but yeah, she's hot. And I can't forget about Denise Richards (white).
Anyhow, if people were to end up in a situation in which they have a mate that is of a different race, there is much good, as well as bad if the relationship doesn't work, that could come out of it.
*Aryanna Chanel Dickson
"Ari" (and that is said in Spanish) is my five year old baby sister. She heads this part about what good could come from interracial mate selection because she is black and Mexican. Our father is black and her mother is Mexican. There are plenty of people out there, including many of my friends or old friends that are of mixed heritage. My sister, Aryanna, Kristan Wilson, Adam Carter, Jessica Fletcher, Mora Kang, Kory Williams, David Foes, Jackie Anderson, Joshua Hernandez, Mitch and Vic Herd, all those other Facebook friends I think are mixed, but do not want to list them and be wrong! (LOL) Everyone I mentioned above are excellent human beings as far as I can tell from my experiences with them. They are all of mixed race. Although I am not as close to many of these people as I used to be, I could not imagine a world with out them. They are all products of interracial mate selection directly. I say directly because so many of us are by-products of interracial mating whether directly or indirectly. As mentioned before in a previous note, my family tree will start to become whiter and whiter once you go back three generations. Consequently, I am a product of interracial mate selection. This whole thing about race is bogus in the first place, and we are all just human when you really break it down.
What also is good about this is the actual product. I remember this from 7th grade art class. There are three primary colors, blue, red, and yellow. Along with black and white, the primary colors make up all colors of the spectrum (noting that ultraviolet and infrared are invisible to the naked eye) or any color you have ever seen for that matter. Humans have their primary people that show phenotypes that cater to their global, geographical location. Those are analogously primary people. When you start to mix those people, this is when you start to get very interesting-looking people. Seeing one who is mixed with Ethiopian and Italian is like looking at and exotic blue that was mixed with yellow and white. When you see someone from Southeast Asia mixed with someone from Central American, it will give you that exotic red that has been mixed with blue and white. The possibilities are endless when interracial mating isn't inhibited, and the results can be absolutely stunning (see Alicia Keys).
*Becoming closer to being a Human Race
The people of the world are still concerned with matters of race as a means of separating the rank and file into groups of different statuses. Knowing that most people are more similar than they are different, this classifying of people particularly based on skin color and other phenotypes that go along with skin color is merely arbitrary. People of different races or heritages are more similar that they are different; only that the events and customs participated in by the different groups are a different means to the same end. For instance, we can look at a group that sends its 12 year old children out to hunt on their own. We in America may look at that as crazy, but what is really trying to be accomplished? Now, let's look at a 12 year old American. At twelve, children are allowed to go to the store on their own, go to and from school on their own, or have cellular phones. Some may say that a 12 year old child going to hunt on his or her own, though usually it will be a male, is crazy, but is that any more dangerous that what a 12 year old in America goes through? The American 12 year old has do deal with certain dangers that the child that has to hunt does not have to (and vise-versa too). The American child has to deal with a society that has shown the capability of kidnapping, robbery, theft, rape, and violence that would be mostly unseen to the child that has to hunt. The point is that both 12 year olds are being autonomous and coming of age in a world that is led by adults who they will eventually be like. The means are different for these two, but the ends are the same, which is my whole point.
If we can shatter this arbitrary way of trying to differentiate people, we can become a better country and world for that matter. Interracial mate selection would be part of the equation to solve the problem of racial disharmony that exists in the world.
*Increasing the chances of finding a great mate for you.
Finding a great mate from you could come from anywhere. That person could, and probably will most likely, come from one in your own race, which is fine. There is a great chance of that person lying outside the race as well. If I as a black man were to be limited to only black women, I would be in a world of trouble. My experiences have shown that I am not very well liked by many black women. This significantly reduced my changes in being with anyone until I opened up my mind and experiences. This has simply increased my chances in being with someone that is great for me (though I could be on my way to being with someone now, but I doubt it). Opening up, at least if you are not with someone now, to all possibilities will give you a greater chance. This does not mean you to go after anything, just simply be open to anything.
In conclusion, interracial mate selection is just one part in making this world a better place. We do not have to stay within our respective races or actively go outside of our races, but rather entertain all possibilities. There could be some negativity and angst to some, but that is probably a very small percentage of people out there. I'd like to think that most people are reasonable and tolerant enough to not infringe on the happiness of other and instead be happy that others have found happiness in their form. So, let all people of the world enjoy a piece of fried chicken and watermelon!
Originally written December 6, 2009
I think I have made it clear before, but will reiterate just in case. I am not advocating people consciously pursing a mate of the same race or different race. The point I am trying to make is that people should allow themselves to be open to anything. At the same time, I do know that we are more likely to end up with people that are part of the group that we are mostly exposed to. For instance, I know of several black women that did not necessarily grow up like me. I grew up with primarily blacks and Hispanics. I was still exposed to all kinds of people, but it was probably 75% black/Hispanic and 25% non-black/Hispanic. In contrast, these black women grew up with a crowd that was more skewed towards non-black/Hispanic, which doesn't mean anything other than they were simply around them when they grew up. With these women, I jokingly would asked them who their top celebrity crushes are. To my somewhat astonishment, there was no mention of Tyson Beckford, Usher, Taye Diggs, Shamar Moore, Morris Chestnut, (Adam Carter, LOL!) or any other typical black male celebrity hearthrob. Those black women named almost exclusively white guys while many of my black female friends go with those guys mentioned above. Then there are black males. We "sample the whole menu" in almost all instances. For instance, when it comes to celebrity crushes, I like a wide range of them including Claudette Ortiz (Puerto Rican and black), Keri Hilson (black), Alicia Keys (black, Irish, and Italian), Christina Milian (Cuban), or that women from "Sex in the City" (white) that is not Sarah Jessica Parker, Kim Cattrell, or the lesbian, red-headed women (I know that seems weird, but she is hot to me, lol). Forgetting I am on the internet, I just found that her name is actually Kristin Davis, but yeah, she's hot. And I can't forget about Denise Richards (white).
Anyhow, if people were to end up in a situation in which they have a mate that is of a different race, there is much good, as well as bad if the relationship doesn't work, that could come out of it.
*Aryanna Chanel Dickson
"Ari" (and that is said in Spanish) is my five year old baby sister. She heads this part about what good could come from interracial mate selection because she is black and Mexican. Our father is black and her mother is Mexican. There are plenty of people out there, including many of my friends or old friends that are of mixed heritage. My sister, Aryanna, Kristan Wilson, Adam Carter, Jessica Fletcher, Mora Kang, Kory Williams, David Foes, Jackie Anderson, Joshua Hernandez, Mitch and Vic Herd, all those other Facebook friends I think are mixed, but do not want to list them and be wrong! (LOL) Everyone I mentioned above are excellent human beings as far as I can tell from my experiences with them. They are all of mixed race. Although I am not as close to many of these people as I used to be, I could not imagine a world with out them. They are all products of interracial mate selection directly. I say directly because so many of us are by-products of interracial mating whether directly or indirectly. As mentioned before in a previous note, my family tree will start to become whiter and whiter once you go back three generations. Consequently, I am a product of interracial mate selection. This whole thing about race is bogus in the first place, and we are all just human when you really break it down.
What also is good about this is the actual product. I remember this from 7th grade art class. There are three primary colors, blue, red, and yellow. Along with black and white, the primary colors make up all colors of the spectrum (noting that ultraviolet and infrared are invisible to the naked eye) or any color you have ever seen for that matter. Humans have their primary people that show phenotypes that cater to their global, geographical location. Those are analogously primary people. When you start to mix those people, this is when you start to get very interesting-looking people. Seeing one who is mixed with Ethiopian and Italian is like looking at and exotic blue that was mixed with yellow and white. When you see someone from Southeast Asia mixed with someone from Central American, it will give you that exotic red that has been mixed with blue and white. The possibilities are endless when interracial mating isn't inhibited, and the results can be absolutely stunning (see Alicia Keys).
*Becoming closer to being a Human Race
The people of the world are still concerned with matters of race as a means of separating the rank and file into groups of different statuses. Knowing that most people are more similar than they are different, this classifying of people particularly based on skin color and other phenotypes that go along with skin color is merely arbitrary. People of different races or heritages are more similar that they are different; only that the events and customs participated in by the different groups are a different means to the same end. For instance, we can look at a group that sends its 12 year old children out to hunt on their own. We in America may look at that as crazy, but what is really trying to be accomplished? Now, let's look at a 12 year old American. At twelve, children are allowed to go to the store on their own, go to and from school on their own, or have cellular phones. Some may say that a 12 year old child going to hunt on his or her own, though usually it will be a male, is crazy, but is that any more dangerous that what a 12 year old in America goes through? The American 12 year old has do deal with certain dangers that the child that has to hunt does not have to (and vise-versa too). The American child has to deal with a society that has shown the capability of kidnapping, robbery, theft, rape, and violence that would be mostly unseen to the child that has to hunt. The point is that both 12 year olds are being autonomous and coming of age in a world that is led by adults who they will eventually be like. The means are different for these two, but the ends are the same, which is my whole point.
If we can shatter this arbitrary way of trying to differentiate people, we can become a better country and world for that matter. Interracial mate selection would be part of the equation to solve the problem of racial disharmony that exists in the world.
*Increasing the chances of finding a great mate for you.
Finding a great mate from you could come from anywhere. That person could, and probably will most likely, come from one in your own race, which is fine. There is a great chance of that person lying outside the race as well. If I as a black man were to be limited to only black women, I would be in a world of trouble. My experiences have shown that I am not very well liked by many black women. This significantly reduced my changes in being with anyone until I opened up my mind and experiences. This has simply increased my chances in being with someone that is great for me (though I could be on my way to being with someone now, but I doubt it). Opening up, at least if you are not with someone now, to all possibilities will give you a greater chance. This does not mean you to go after anything, just simply be open to anything.
In conclusion, interracial mate selection is just one part in making this world a better place. We do not have to stay within our respective races or actively go outside of our races, but rather entertain all possibilities. There could be some negativity and angst to some, but that is probably a very small percentage of people out there. I'd like to think that most people are reasonable and tolerant enough to not infringe on the happiness of other and instead be happy that others have found happiness in their form. So, let all people of the world enjoy a piece of fried chicken and watermelon!
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